Self-loathing is in no way, shape or form and effective tool of self improvement, but for many of us it is what we are most used to. It is what we are comfortable with.
Change is simple, but not easy, especially when you have to start looking at yourself differently. But this is key if you want sustainable progress or success: learning to look at yourself differently. Accepting yourself differently and recognising when you are judging yourself in a way that doesn't manifest upward movement.
Many of us are afraid that if we stop sh*tting on ourselves and if the world stops sh*tting on us, then we will just stop trying to be better.
But this simply isn't true.
If you want to manifest long term change, it has to come from a place of positive self talk, genuine care and self love. Not self loathing.
Girls, I want you to start to become aware of how you talk to yourself and your body. Do you talk at your body or to your body, because these are two very different energies.
It is the difference between judgment (at) and discernment (to). Many of us are in the habit of not only talking at our body, but in also attaching a negative meaning to what we see. We judge ourselves as being not worthy, saying things like "you've gained weight and you are discusting", or "I have too many greys, too many wrinkles and no one is ever going to want to have sex with me." Attach meaning to what we see in the mirror is hugely self destructing and many of us have been doing it for so long that we don't even realise we do it any more. It is our 'norm', but it isn't serving us well.
Our thoughts only have the meaning that we attach to them, so they only have the power that we choose to give them.
Learning to talk to your body is something my girls and I were chatting about in training just the other day. They have noticed that to get better at lifting the bar, they have to be intentional in the conversations they have with their body. They have to talk to their body if they want to get it to do the things that make them feel strong and confident.
Girls, keep working towards your happiness. You are worth the effort xx
@jbwarren_1 performing 110kg deadlifts. Go girl!